Taking a look on some new stats concerning the ever so popular one-night stand. 

 According to Urban Dictionary, a “one-night stand” is defined as: “Hooking up with someone for one night of sex with no strings attached and hoping to never see them again. It is important not to exchange any personal info with them so they can’t track you down and stalk you later.” We are all familiar with the infamous one-night stand. We have read about it in books, seen it in movies and TV shows, and most of us have had first hand experience with it. While most of these one-night stand encounters are similar, are all one-night stands created equal?  There are obvious gender differences that effect a one-night stand, but is a one-night stand really that black and white? Can we really define a one-night stand as good or bad? If we want to be fair, there are plenty of pros and cons for one-night stands. Check them out below.


–       One-night stands are emotionally less draining than relationships

–       If you need your needs satisfied by someone other than yourself, a one night stand is a good idea

–       You don’t waste time

–       You get a great story to tell your friends

–       It’s more physical than coming home and watching Netflix

–       You can act however you want because you will probably never see them again

–       It’s great revenge if you are trying to get back at an ex


–       Awkward morning encounters (example: is he going to make you breakfast or kick you out?)

–       Possible emotional attachment

–       Feelings of guilt may follow

–       Possibility of STDs

–       You are going home with a complete stranger who you don’t know

Now let’s consider the stereotypical one-night stand.

  1. A man picks up a woman
  2. The woman feels flattered because she was “the chosen one” and wanted by someone
  3. The woman quickly becomes attached and feels dejected when the man ceases contact with her.

It has recently been proven that men actually lower their standards when they are looking for a one-night stand, so any form of flattery on women is false. So while you are being picked up and feeling like Beyonce, the guy is just happy that he got anyone at all to go him with him.

But what about women who thrive from one night stands? There are plenty of women who reject typical fairy tale romance and would much rather have casual sex. To say that only men crave casual sex and don’t want commitment would be outdated. In a survey of US adults conducted in 2012, 58% of the participants said they had had a one-night stand. Even more intriguing is that the percentage was about evenly split between men and women, showing that both men and women are almost equally inclined to have a one-night stand

There is one big factor that is hard to ignore. Although both men and women are about equal in the percentage of those adults who have one night stands, women are overall less inclined to be sexually promiscuous. The risks for women are much higher when engaging in a one-night stand. Whereas women can get stuck in a “sticky situation” men can always just walk away, leaving for a disproportion in the inclination for sexual promiscuity between genders.

Realistically, one-night stands can be either really good or really bad. It all depends on circumstances and who you are. If you want to unleash your wild side for the night and then go on with your daily life and never see that person again, a one-night stand is a great idea. But for the majority of women who leave feeling dejected and alone, one-night stands can be self-esteem destroyers. Both men and women of our generation have a decision to make: if they will take the risk of the notorious one-night stand, and what it will mean to them once the sun rises and it’s time to go home.

[inside image via Tracey Emi]